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How To Handle Conflict

July 23, 2017

Text: Mat 5:21-26; 18:15-35; Php 4:2-7


A. Duties of the offender.

  1. What not to do.
    a. Avoid the offended.
    b. Move to another congregation.

  2. What to do.
    a. Initiate reconciliation with the offended (Mat 5:23-24).
    b. Do it quickly (Mat 5:25).
    c. Make every effort (Luk 12:58).

  3. Why do.
    a. If we love our brethren, we will be careful not to cause any stumbling (1Jo 2:10).
    b. If we want our worship to be acceptable to God, we have to make right our relationship with our brethren (Mat 5:24).
    c. If we cause offence to our brethren, our salvation will be affected (Mat 18:6-9).


B. Duties of the offended.

  1. What not to do.
    a. Harbour bitterness in the heart (Eph 4:31).
    b. Badmouth the offender (Mat 5:22).

  2. What to do.
    a. Go to the offender in private (Mat 18:15).
    b. Bring one or 2 more brethren (Mat 18:16).
    c. Tell it to the church (Mat 18:17).
    d. Withdraw fellowship from him (Mat 18:17).

  3. Why do.
    a. Those who are angry with their brethren in word, in thought, and in deed will be in danger of the judgment (Mat 5:21-22).
    b. Those who are unwilling to forgive their brethren will receive no forgiveness from God (Mat 18:21-22,35).
    c. Those who hate their brethren will not have eternal life (1Jo 3:15).


C. Duties of the outsider.

  1. What not to do.
    a. Take sides in the conflict (1Ti 5:20-21).
    b. Gossip about the issue (1Ti 5:13).

  2. What to do.
    a., Appeal to both parties to put aside their differences for the sake of unity (Php 4:2).
    b. Get help from others who can help mediate between both parties (Php 4:3).
    c. Pray for both parties that they will be able to work out their differences (Php 4:6-7).

  3. Why do.
    a. The blessing of being a peacemaker (Mat 5:9).
    b. The danger of losing souls (Php 4:3).
    c. The reputation of the church (1Co 6:5-6).

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